Save Mon Couple
Articles to understand your emotions, clarify relationship difficulties and explore practical ways forward, at your own pace.
Chapter 229
Two partners decide to build a house. One of them knows more about construction, chooses the tradespeople, keeps track of the schedule and handles day-to-day problems. The other takes part in the important decisions, covers a share…
Lire l’article : A shared project does not need to be managed by both partners in the same wayChapter 230
His mother needs him for something important. His partner is waiting for him to make a decision they have been putting off for several weeks. He loves both women. He feels responsible toward each of them. If he goes to his mother, his…
Lire l’article : Who should come first?Chapter 231
In a couple, one of the partners manages certain projects better. They anticipate expenses, remember deadlines, compare consequences and know how to give up a pleasure when resources do not allow it.
Lire l’article : Being more competent in one area does not make you superiorChapter 232
She knows the numbers, the clients, the risks and the day-to-day operations better. He brings ideas, sees certain possibilities and takes part in important decisions. At home, the situation often reverses: he…
Lire l’article : The last word must be able to change sidesChapter 233
A man proposes a threesome with another woman to his partner. For him, the idea matches a long-held desire. His partner does not feel the same enthusiasm. Yet she feels a real curiosity,…
Lire l’article : Saying yes once does not mean promising foreverChapter 234
A woman discovers an exchange that wounds her in her partner's phone. In a few seconds, years of relationship change color. She no longer sees the man with whom she built, laughed, doubted and weathered…
Lire l’article : Before deciding, regain a fuller perspectiveChapter 235
I remember that couple who had to decide whether they would buy a piece of land.
Lire l’article : My disagreement must give more than it takes awayChapter 236
When it appears, we easily get the impression that an inner authority has just handed down its judgment. If I feel this bad, we think, then I must have acted wrongly. The more intense the unease, the more serious the fault must be.
Lire l’article : My guilt is a clue, not yet a verdictChapter 237
We easily call "luck" whatever quickly answers one of our desires.
Lire l’article : A stroke of luck in the moment is not yet the luck of a lifetimeChapter 238
Our partner insulted us. We answered with a harsher word. He or she cheated on us. We cheated in turn so that our partner would feel a comparable pain. Our partner stopped doing their part in a…
Lire l’article : Having a reason to react does not make my reaction rightChapter 239
We can spend hours explaining why we are angry without ever having said what we would like to get back.
Lire l’article : Acknowledging my pain without giving it my whole lifeChapter 240
We can recount an argument for an hour without yet having named what hurt us the most.
Lire l’article : Restoring my inner world without denying what hurt me
