Save Mon Couple
Articles to understand your emotions, clarify relationship difficulties and explore practical ways forward, at your own pace.
Chapter 73
The strengths, bonds and possibilities still present deserve to be protected, even when certain difficulties occupy more of our attention.
Ler o artigo : What is still standing deserves our attentionChapter 74
Change becomes lasting when we practice a different response often enough for it to remain accessible in difficult moments.
Ler o artigo : Changing means practicing a new responseChapter 75
An approach remains useful when it adapts to the sensitivity, the needs and the evolution of the person it seeks to reach.
Ler o artigo : A useful approach evolves with the person it wants to reachChapter 76
Adapting the means can make progress easier, without moving the shared goal or crossing the boundaries that give the change its direction.
Ler o artigo : Changing the method does not give you the right to change the destinationChapter 77
Choosing a realistic priority allows you to work deeply on one behavior, rather than scattering your efforts across too many simultaneous changes.
Ler o artigo : You don't fix ten flaws at onceChapter 78
When attention is constantly scattered, a couple loses time, presence and energy that were once reserved for its priorities.
Ler o artigo : Distraction steals from a couple what was once a priorityChapter 79
Saying that everything will be fine does not transform any situation without a concrete decision, sustained action and an honest review of the results.
Ler o artigo : Saying it will be fine does nothing to make it fineChapter 80
Hope becomes credible when intentions take the form of regular, visible efforts that are consistent with the announced change.
Ler o artigo : Hope needs visible effortsChapter 81
Experience produces maturity when it changes our next response, instead of simply enriching our memory of mistakes.
Ler o artigo : Maturity begins when experience corrects our next responseChapter 82
Needs, boundaries and expectations benefit from being expressed clearly, because no amount of closeness allows us to guess everything.
Ler o artigo : Our partner is not a mind readerChapter 83
Naming the facts, the causes and the effects precisely helps direct solutions toward the problem actually being experienced.
Ler o artigo : A poorly named problem draws solutions toward the wrong targetChapter 84
A conversation becomes useful when it goes beyond repeating the observation to lead toward understanding, a decision or an action.
Ler o artigo : Talking about the problem does not solve the problem
