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Chapter 109
Receiving a secret entrusts us with a responsibility of discretion, without giving us the right to tell someone else's story.
Read article : A secret confided to us does not become our story to tellChapter 110
Even when it seems useful, a lie remains deceptive, and a favorable outcome is not enough to make it innocent.
Read article : Usefulness alone is not enough to make a lie innocentChapter 111
A lie also muddles its own motive, because a false explanation does not allow us to know the real intention with certainty.
Read article : A lie tells us little about its motiveChapter 112
Fidelity rests first of all on a promise that is clearly understood, shared and defined by the people who choose to commit to it.
Read article : Fidelity begins with a promise that is understoodChapter 113
Being faithful does not mean being devoid of desire, but choosing to consciously protect the promise made despite that desire.
Read article : The faithful person was not without desire; they protected their wordChapter 114
Our partner interprets the present through a history made up of words, behaviors and experiences accumulated together.
Read article : Our partner looks at our track recordChapter 115
Every attitude adds a trace to the relational story that will later be used to interpret our gestures, our silences and our promises.
Read article : Every attitude writes the history that will read us backChapter 116
The past becomes useful when it sheds light on our present choices, rather than when it continually serves to accuse or condemn.
Read article : The past must become experience, not accusationChapter 117
Some events seem sudden, even though earlier signs already existed and were only asking for more attention.
Read article : What surprises us had sometimes already left signsChapter 118
Trust is rebuilt gradually, by reopening each space of the relationship according to the evidence and the safety available.
Read article : The house of trust opens room by roomChapter 119
Time alone does not restore trust; consistent, repeated evidence gradually makes someone's word credible again.
Read article : Trust doesn't come back with time; it comes back with evidenceChapter 120
The depth of a question must remain proportionate to the available evidence, so as to avoid both blindness and excessive accusation.
Read article : The question must match the level of proof
